if you want to love a man

If you want to love a man throw out everything you thought you knew approach him softly and slowly like you’re innocent and brand new open your heart and believe that its true If you want to love a man be by his side look with softness in his eyes if the eyes meet he will soften and let you in listen to his breathing and listen to his heart and he will show you his in time Hold his hand a man’s hands connect to his heart caress him with your softness and likely he will not wish to part do not deceive him with false praise because of that he will distrust and will quickly tire share with him your dreams and he, you may inspire Take the time to feel his pain and to understand his sadness if that can be shared it will multiply his gladness and in time his heart may learn to smile brand new and quite possibly true He’ll smile most when he thinks of you Don’t be afraid to let him see the part of you that’s still a little girl because if you do so his true emotions he will begin to unfurl and then you’ll more see his heart the heart of your man and love will feel free and not bound by a plan If you dream of marriage keep it to yourself a man wants to be seen and loved and cherished for himself and not regarded as a thing or suspect you’re seeking a ring if so, you may be relegated to just a fling because a man is not quick to trust he needs to know your sincere Be his buddy and be his friend if he’s troubled help him to mend If he’s sweating wipe his brow If he’s plowing help guide his plow and if he ever should show you a tear tell him you’re by his side let him feel your warmth near Inspire him to be also a boy because that brings joy and if you want love to grow let him know, let your love show Share with him all that is in your heart you don’t think it possible but he will understand if he’s meant to be your man The best and lasting couples are also best friends and if love grows slowly and is nurtured and cherished it never ends 

James T. Adair

go after her

Go after her. fuck, don’t sit there and wait for her to call, go after her because thats what you should do if you love someone, dont wait for them to give you a sign cause it might never come, dont let people happen to you, dont let me happen to you, or her, shes not a fucking television show or tornado. there are people i might have loved had they gotten on the airplane or run down the street after me or called me up drunk at 4 in the morning because they need to tell me right now and because they cannot regret this and i always thought id be the only one doing crazy things for people who would never give enough of a fuck to do it back or to act like idiots or be entirely vulnerable and honest and making someone fall in love with you is easy and flying 3000 miles on 4 days notice because you cant just sit there and do nothing and breathe into telephones is not everyone’s idea of love but it is the way i can recognize it because that is what i do. go scream it and be with her in meaningful ways because that is beautiful and that is generous and that is what loving someone is, that is raw and that is unguarded, and that is all that is worth anything, really.

Rather than obsessing about one person

 

 

 

“Rather than obsessing on one person, thank them for showing you what you like in another.”

— ~ Sidonie Bouchet

Ugly is Irrelevant

 

“Ugly is irrelevant. It is an immeasurable insult to a woman, and then supposedly the worst crime you can commit as a woman. But ugly, as beautiful, is an illusion. A matter of taste, a whim, an eye, a beholder, an opinion, a spin, light crossing the frame, paint, projection. The moment. Context.”

— Margaret Cho