Only Once…you find someone who can turn your life around..


“Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you. When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement. They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself. Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful. There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around. You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are. The things that seem insignificant to most people such as a note, song or walk become invaluable treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever. Memories of your childhood come back and are so clear and vivid it’s like being young again. Colours seem brighter and more brilliant. Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn’t exist at all. A phone call or two during the day helps to get you through a long day’s work and always brings a smile to your face. In their presence, there’s no need for continuous conversation, but you find you’re quite content in just having them nearby. Things that never interested you before become fascinating because you know they are important to this person who is so special to you. You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do. Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind or even a storm cloud on the horizon. You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible. You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you. You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile. Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life.”

Bob Marley

Sir Erospainter sidebar and real life: so here is what I will tell you Mr. Marley…I respectfully disagree….here is my story..not looking for sympathy…but is what it is..I will go with the trinity idea of soul mates

First time: I was in love…college..senior…got engaged to freshman…moved away for life work..too far away she had three more years of retrospect should not have gotten engaged…she moved on..course with my best friend sucked

Second time..27 in Miami…she was married and unhappy and she was ready to walk then right within a month before she was ready she found out she was pregnant with twins..and she did the right thing to be a family

Third time..was recently….if you find that person please please recognize about it..compromise..cajole but hell fucking work it girl..cause there are limited credits in the soul mate wars…

4 thoughts on “Only Once…you find someone who can turn your life around..

  1. I really don’t care for the term “soul mate” but I could relate to what Bob was saying. It is also to important to recognize that it is a “Soul” mae and not a “Sole” mate. There is no rule that says we are only allowed to have one special person in our life.

  2. I find I must agree with both you and Bob, to some extent. If we are lucky….very lucky….there is a time, when someone unique and marvelous comes into our lives. The depth of feeling is amazing and we forget to be frightened; we begin to share those hopes, dreams, and secrets, we’ve never before dared utter to another. Their presence calms our souls and having them near is simply all we need and more than we thought we would ever find. If the relationship ends though, we do begin to realize that while time may eventually allow a new connection, there truly are ‘limited credits’ for those who can touch our souls in such a deeply profound manner.

    • if you have found such a soul mate my heart is happy for you Jane..and the limited credit I truly believe is something real..not sure how we earn more credits..perhaps by treating each with respect..kindness..honesty and honesty and treat other’s hearts like the way you would want to be treated..perhaps you do ..get more credits that can hope…thank you for your thoughtful commentary

      • I have often wondered if we aren’t born with those credits already in place; something not earned by good deeds and kindness. Certainly though, we can all hope that one way or another, there are enough credits to sustain us until we find that which makes us whole and alive.

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